“There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.” said C.S. Lewis.
The past is gone, over, done, ended, finished.
Why do we cling on to it, like a child refusing to let go of blankie?
Is it because we fear yesterday was better than anything we might experience today or tomorrow?
Or do we simply enjoy beating ourselves up? Like anxiety… waking up at 3am thinking about how you messed up a 2 minute conversation 5 years ago.
There’s nothing wrong with keeping cherished memories fresh.
But if you live in the past aren’t you saying “no” to creating new experiences and making the most out of your life today?
The truth is everyone has bad memories. They are only snapshots of real events, like pieces torn out of a photo album. Our brain literally makes things up to complete the memory.
We often can’t tell if we remember an event or just recall someone telling us about it.
Same with unhappy memories.
We make ourselves feel bad, stop ourselves from moving forwards because we have a vague memory of being told:
We’d never amount to anything,
We were hopeless, hamfisted,
Dumb as an ox.
We take on responsibility for things that happened through no fault of own.
Our parents business fails. The bailiffs come around to empty the house.
We blame ourselves, even though we were kids.
Such memories lie hidden, deep in your subconscious mind, snapping at your heals each time you try to make your life better.
It’s time to loosen the past’s hold on you.
Picture a beautiful flower bed, with an ugly weed right the middle. If you pull it up but leave some of the roots in the soil, it will grow back again. That’s the same with the unwanted baggage your carrying around. It won’t go away until you deal with the root cause.
The real cause of your anxiety, stress or feelings of impostor syndrome are buried deep inside. I help people dig them out.
It’s what I do.
Leaving you free to enjoy life, pursue your goals and dreams.